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Understand Men | How to Understand What Men Want

Understand Men

“If Only I Could Understand Men….”

Ladies,

When it comes to ways to understand men, you got to think outside of your comfort zone. Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated.

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Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand men in order the know what they really want in a relationship. Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts.

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What’s a woman to do?

Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.

Understand Men – You Ladies Think We Know What We Want

1) Men are more sensitive than women. While some women might find that hard to believe, it’s true. Men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman.

Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a woman tells a man that he should “let his feelings out,” what he translates that to mean I want you to tell me how much you really love me.

2) Men hate fighting. A man would rather say what’s on his mind and walk away. Men don’t want to have those long fights that start in the evening and ends two days later. Once we say what we wanted to say, it’s over. At least that is what we think and wish would happen. One of the biggest problems most men have when it comes to fighting is that we can dish it, but we can’t take it.

Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.

3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. It really sucks being alone and most men will tell you that if given a choice of being alone or being married they will pick marriage.

While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful. When a man opens up to a woman he don’t expect that woman to go an tell all of her girlfriends about how he finally open up.

Ladies do this sound like you…

When we first started dating he would take me to fun places and we would go out all the time. He would listen to everything I had to say and he understood what I was talking about.  Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying.  They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped being romantic.

What did I do wrong?

I just dont’ understand men because I think I’m attractive, I have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape.  So why then, do I always end up with the men who just come over to sit around my place and watch sports all evening.

What happen to the romance?

I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men.  I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them.

What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”

Most women think a wonderful relationship is simply about finding the right man. The truth is that those women who have wonderful relationships didn’t necessarily know where to find good men, instead they attracted them.

What you are missing here is that you need to attract the right type of man.

Most women that find it hard to keep a good man always talk with another woman to find out what they are doing wrong. Big mistake. If you want to understand men, you need to talk to men.

Do you know of someone who has a pattern of always dating losers, bad boys, who always break their heart and leave them crying?

For those women, oftentimes they need help in identifying the signs of such unreliable men.

Understand Men – Picking Out A Loser

To me a loser is a man who is totally into himself and has little empathy for a woman’s needs. He is a man who has a pattern of sweet talking women in an attempt to sweep them off their feet and into the nearest bed. Player’s are more concern with how many women they can sleep with at one time. Players’s will wine and dine you and tell you how beautiful you are and how lucky he is to have met you. Once they get into bed with you, your services are no longer required. This is especially true if you are lousy in bed. I hate to say this, but some women and men are just lousy when it comes to sex.

Players are wonderful in the beginning of a relationship; however, in time they most always become less attached and more distant to their partner. Some never call back, others break dates and some even “forget” their wallet and their date ends up paying for the meal.

Have you ever met or dated a man such as this? Perhaps he never said he loved you, and whenever you spoke about commitment, he would change the subject.

The truth is that no woman ever wakes up in the morning and says to herself, “Today I need to find a man who will hurt me”, but if you keep setting yourself up to get hurt…guess what. You will get hurt.

Rather what most often happens is that many women (and men) tend to confuse intensity with reliability. They meet someone who makes them FEEL wonderful or excited and they assume that he is a good man.

The problem isn’t that their feelings are wrong. What gets them into trouble is that their intense feelings often cause them to ignore bad or inconsistent behavior that they would clearly see if they were not so emotionally involved.

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Love Making Mistakes | The Art of Lovemaking

“Here are 7 Lovemaking Mistakes. Are You Making Them?”

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Dear Friend,

I would like to share with you some love making mistakes many couples are making. In any relationship or marriage, love making place a vital role in the happiness of the relationship.

Let’s face it, if the love making is lousy… you got a problem.  I know many of the so call experts will say that love making is only a small part of any relationship, but it is a part. And for some it’s a big part of the marriage or relationship. Lack of love making is one reason why many relationships fail.

That old saying “if you are not taking care of home, somebody else will” Your spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other should not have to go else where to get that love making feeling.

I hear a lot of women saying love making is not that important.  Ok, you keep believing that and sooner or later your man or significant other will find someone that things love making is important. You better get it together, because ladies I hate to break this news to you, but there are only two main things on most men minds 10-15 hours a day.

Sex and Money!

If you are not focusing some of your attention on love making your are making a big mistake.

Here are a few of the Love Making Mistakes from Oprah’s Love Expert Michael Webb

MISTAKE #1:

Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things.

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

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MISTAKE #2:

Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 ­ 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her naked will drive her wild. But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3:

Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy). If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

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MISTAKE #4:

Using toys or porn to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.

Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

MISTAKE #5:

Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

MISTAKE #6:

Trying to “finish” at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

MISTAKE #7:

Sticking to a “set routine” too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar? No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship. The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover new found enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience.

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Love Making Mistakes | The Art of Lovemaking