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Understand Men | How to Understand What Men Want

Understand Men

“If Only I Could Understand Men….”

Ladies,

When it comes to ways to understand men, you got to think outside of your comfort zone. Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated.

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Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand men in order the know what they really want in a relationship. Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts.

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What’s a woman to do?

Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.

Understand Men – You Ladies Think We Know What We Want

1) Men are more sensitive than women. While some women might find that hard to believe, it’s true. Men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman.

Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a woman tells a man that he should “let his feelings out,” what he translates that to mean I want you to tell me how much you really love me.

2) Men hate fighting. A man would rather say what’s on his mind and walk away. Men don’t want to have those long fights that start in the evening and ends two days later. Once we say what we wanted to say, it’s over. At least that is what we think and wish would happen. One of the biggest problems most men have when it comes to fighting is that we can dish it, but we can’t take it.

Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.

3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. It really sucks being alone and most men will tell you that if given a choice of being alone or being married they will pick marriage.

While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful. When a man opens up to a woman he don’t expect that woman to go an tell all of her girlfriends about how he finally open up.

Ladies do this sound like you…

When we first started dating he would take me to fun places and we would go out all the time. He would listen to everything I had to say and he understood what I was talking about.  Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying.  They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped being romantic.

What did I do wrong?

I just dont’ understand men because I think I’m attractive, I have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape.  So why then, do I always end up with the men who just come over to sit around my place and watch sports all evening.

What happen to the romance?

I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men.  I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them.

What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”

Most women think a wonderful relationship is simply about finding the right man. The truth is that those women who have wonderful relationships didn’t necessarily know where to find good men, instead they attracted them.

What you are missing here is that you need to attract the right type of man.

Most women that find it hard to keep a good man always talk with another woman to find out what they are doing wrong. Big mistake. If you want to understand men, you need to talk to men.

Do you know of someone who has a pattern of always dating losers, bad boys, who always break their heart and leave them crying?

For those women, oftentimes they need help in identifying the signs of such unreliable men.

Understand Men – Picking Out A Loser

To me a loser is a man who is totally into himself and has little empathy for a woman’s needs. He is a man who has a pattern of sweet talking women in an attempt to sweep them off their feet and into the nearest bed. Player’s are more concern with how many women they can sleep with at one time. Players’s will wine and dine you and tell you how beautiful you are and how lucky he is to have met you. Once they get into bed with you, your services are no longer required. This is especially true if you are lousy in bed. I hate to say this, but some women and men are just lousy when it comes to sex.

Players are wonderful in the beginning of a relationship; however, in time they most always become less attached and more distant to their partner. Some never call back, others break dates and some even “forget” their wallet and their date ends up paying for the meal.

Have you ever met or dated a man such as this? Perhaps he never said he loved you, and whenever you spoke about commitment, he would change the subject.

The truth is that no woman ever wakes up in the morning and says to herself, “Today I need to find a man who will hurt me”, but if you keep setting yourself up to get hurt…guess what. You will get hurt.

Rather what most often happens is that many women (and men) tend to confuse intensity with reliability. They meet someone who makes them FEEL wonderful or excited and they assume that he is a good man.

The problem isn’t that their feelings are wrong. What gets them into trouble is that their intense feelings often cause them to ignore bad or inconsistent behavior that they would clearly see if they were not so emotionally involved.

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Ways To Save Your Marriage And Stop Divorce

If your marriage is on the rocks and you find yourself asking the right way to save your marriage then it isn't too late to stop divorce events no matter at what stage you find yourselves.

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Being Bitter Can Cause Many Problems In Your Marriage

If your marriage isn’t going the way you wanted, then you may become bitter about it. You shouldn’t let this bitterness have an effect on your relationship, which is easy to let happen. Maybe you feel that your spouse is bitter and is taking it out on you. It’s pretty easy to become bitter about your relationship when you realize that your marriage isn’t a fairy tale, but bitterness can easily make your marriage even worse and you may not be able to save it. Being bitter does no one any good and will only lead to more bad feelings between the two of you. If saving your marriage is something that you really want to do, then it’s important that both you and your partner work out your bitter feelings about the situation.

Bitterness is often the product of resentment. You resent your husband for getting to play golf every Saturday when all you have to do is work, work, work. Your husband may even start to resent the fact that you get along well with men who work with you. Over time, your resentment will only get worse and it may cause you to become bitter about your life. If you resent your spouse a lot, then you first need to identify the reason why. It’s most likely because you don’t communicate your feelings with each other. If you’re having problems with your spouse, then don’t keep them inside.  It’s best that you try to work them out by talking with your partner about them. You can only start to compromise and get over problems after you start talking about them.

Lots of times your spouse won’t even know he or she has done something wrong. If you have a problem with your husband spending a lot of time with his friends, then he will keep doing it unless you make your feelings known. Whenever your partner does return home, ignoring him or her won’t make the situation any better for either of you. You’ll find that talking about the problem and trying to compromise is the much better solution if you really want to work things out. For example, you could suggest that your partner still enjoy his free time, but when he or she returns, they must give you time along to do your own thing too. If your husband or wife really cares about you, then they will have no problem reaching a compromise.

During each and every discussion that you have with each other regarding your differences, make sure that you both express your regrets for having doubted or upset the other. You’ll get the results you’re finding much easier if you’re rational when you talk about your feelings honestly.  Doc No. 34Sdlhgsdl -sds

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on Save my marriage and Free marriage advice

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